Moving to Nashville
PROS
Job
· Population of interest
· Doing Workshops
· License eligible supervision
· Can count all hours toward LPC
· Encourage doing Sport Psych and reach out to Athletic Dept.
· Opportunity to teach/adjunct
· Nice people (HD)
· Continuing Ed
· Long commute offers time for reflection and meditation
· Big office to decorate as I wish
· Flexible boss
Luna’s Life
· Be involved in more activities
· YMCA Swim team
· Reconnect with old friends
· ENCORE Program
· Closer bond between us
· Better family values
· Safer
· Be involved in more activities
· YMCA Swim team
· Reconnect with old friends
· ENCORE Program
· Closer bond between us
· Better family values
· Safer
Vanessa
· Listens, Honest, Real, Shopping threshold,
· Listens, Honest, Real, Shopping threshold,
Shared experience/history, Stable
·
Luna and Drew connection/friendship (No
Marriage!)
· Watching Ava grow up
· Shannon, good, dependable, caring, supportive
· Watching Ava grow up
· Shannon, good, dependable, caring, supportive
Jolan
· Easy, Safe, Dependable, Stable, Mutual friendship, trust
· Healthy values – positive environment/friendship for Luna
· Running partner
Other friends
· Elizabeth – listens, blunt, gets me
· Christy, Dave, Zoe – trusting good family values
· Yinka – trusting good family values (reconnect)
· Beth, Sydney, David - trusting good values (reconnect)
· Dawne, Ray, McKenzie
· Emily
· Meetings
· Soccer…leagues, pick-up
· Easy, Safe, Dependable, Stable, Mutual friendship, trust
· Healthy values – positive environment/friendship for Luna
· Running partner
Other friends
· Elizabeth – listens, blunt, gets me
· Christy, Dave, Zoe – trusting good family values
· Yinka – trusting good family values (reconnect)
· Beth, Sydney, David - trusting good values (reconnect)
· Dawne, Ray, McKenzie
· Emily
· Meetings
· Soccer…leagues, pick-up
Lower cost
of living
· Cheaper groceries
· No state income tax
· Tax-free weekends
· Cheaper groceries
· No state income tax
· Tax-free weekends
Familiarity
· Bellevue
· YMCA Swim team
· HYSA
· Starbucks
· Kroger
· Community feeling
· Family activities – wholesome and inexpensive
· TJMaxx
· Edwin Warner
· Running
· Hair stylist – Jessica
Old Apartment
· Safe
· Pool
· Tennis courts
· Familiar
· School bus stop
· Edwin Warner
· Quiet
· Empowering
Independence
· Family boundaries
· Starting over – stronger – on my terms
· Closer relationship with Luna
· Bellevue
· YMCA Swim team
· HYSA
· Starbucks
· Kroger
· Community feeling
· Family activities – wholesome and inexpensive
· TJMaxx
· Edwin Warner
· Running
· Hair stylist – Jessica
Old Apartment
· Safe
· Pool
· Tennis courts
· Familiar
· School bus stop
· Edwin Warner
· Quiet
· Empowering
Independence
· Family boundaries
· Starting over – stronger – on my terms
· Closer relationship with Luna
Better
atmosphere
· Friendliness of people
· Manners
· Quiet/Peaceful/Slow-paced
· Friendliness of people
· Manners
· Quiet/Peaceful/Slow-paced
Shows start
at 7:00 and end at 10:00
No Tolls
Pump your own gas
Clean
Weather
Autism Foundation connection
O’Charley’s Loaded potato soup and sweet rolls
BBQ
Monells
Pump your own gas
Clean
Weather
Autism Foundation connection
O’Charley’s Loaded potato soup and sweet rolls
BBQ
Monells
Moving to Nashville
CONS
Commute
· Gas ($450/month at current prices)
· Long drive (1+ hours)
· Wear on car (oil change, tires, engine)
· Difficulty getting back for emergency
Leaving Nell
· Interrupting progress that took so long to build
· Unfinished and unwrapped “stuff” with little time to re-seal
· Attachment – reenacting loss
· Abrupt ending
· Not available to talk - boundaries
· Takes a long time for me to trust new therapist
Luna’s life
· Far from her Daddy
· Disconnected from family
· Will have to be home alone more
· Re-enacting my childhood
· More time alone before/after school
· Being “new kid”
· Starting school late
· Thrown into middle school
· Bellevue school quality
· Private school expensive
Have to apply for LPC
· Take NMHCE
· Take TN Jurisprudence Exam
· No professional connections
· Supervisory not a great resource
Running into Holly
· Unsure of reaction – not prepared
· Limits professional network and involvement
· Brings up old feelings
· Gas ($450/month at current prices)
· Long drive (1+ hours)
· Wear on car (oil change, tires, engine)
· Difficulty getting back for emergency
Leaving Nell
· Interrupting progress that took so long to build
· Unfinished and unwrapped “stuff” with little time to re-seal
· Attachment – reenacting loss
· Abrupt ending
· Not available to talk - boundaries
· Takes a long time for me to trust new therapist
Luna’s life
· Far from her Daddy
· Disconnected from family
· Will have to be home alone more
· Re-enacting my childhood
· More time alone before/after school
· Being “new kid”
· Starting school late
· Thrown into middle school
· Bellevue school quality
· Private school expensive
Have to apply for LPC
· Take NMHCE
· Take TN Jurisprudence Exam
· No professional connections
· Supervisory not a great resource
Running into Holly
· Unsure of reaction – not prepared
· Limits professional network and involvement
· Brings up old feelings
Apartment
$1250
Moving
expenses
Changing
addresses, bills, car registration
Holidays
alone
Heavy local
traffic
Less
cultural variety
Less “things
to do”
Forgetting
to take the nozzle out before driving away
Staying in NJ
PROS
Nell
· Continue progress, finally understanding tough stuff
· Maintain trust
· Safe space to be
· Boundaries
Luna’s Life
· Has her Daddy around
· Extended family
· Keeps her friendships in tact
· Familiar school/grades
· I’m available in case of emergencies
· Small neighborhood, walk to school
Danielle
· Loving, considerate, cuddles, loyal
· Dependable, will go out of her way to help
· Accepts me just as I am
Job
· Close to home (10min)
· Interesting/Needy population of students
· Friendly staff
· Community feeling
· Opportunity to teach
· Work on Saturdays…per diem another day
Professional progress
· Already have LPC
· Growing network
· Workshops on Mandala
· Mentors: Dr. Farrelly, Nancy, Eileen, Robin, Amy, others
Family availability
· Emergency resource
· Get more personal time
· Scary movies with Mami
· Get to see Papi more often (visits to Lara’s)
· Financial support
Variety of activities
· Beach
· Rivers
· NYC
· Mountains
· Cultural diversity/events
Familiarity
· Bodega
· Neighborhood
· Medical continuity (GYN, Psych, etc)
· Continue progress, finally understanding tough stuff
· Maintain trust
· Safe space to be
· Boundaries
Luna’s Life
· Has her Daddy around
· Extended family
· Keeps her friendships in tact
· Familiar school/grades
· I’m available in case of emergencies
· Small neighborhood, walk to school
Danielle
· Loving, considerate, cuddles, loyal
· Dependable, will go out of her way to help
· Accepts me just as I am
Job
· Close to home (10min)
· Interesting/Needy population of students
· Friendly staff
· Community feeling
· Opportunity to teach
· Work on Saturdays…per diem another day
Professional progress
· Already have LPC
· Growing network
· Workshops on Mandala
· Mentors: Dr. Farrelly, Nancy, Eileen, Robin, Amy, others
Family availability
· Emergency resource
· Get more personal time
· Scary movies with Mami
· Get to see Papi more often (visits to Lara’s)
· Financial support
Variety of activities
· Beach
· Rivers
· NYC
· Mountains
· Cultural diversity/events
Familiarity
· Bodega
· Neighborhood
· Medical continuity (GYN, Psych, etc)
Staying in NJ
CONS
Job
· Hours don’t fulfill LPC requirements
· Have to find appropriate supervisor
· Low salary to cost of living ratio
· Overworked
· Saturdays
· Community college (less respected experience)
· Cocky boss
Luna’s Life
· Quality of friendships
· Family values
· Discomfort/Worry/Safety
· No gifted education
· Parent disconnect from school
· Less involved in activities
Family
· Boundary crossing
· Perpetuate family perception/label
· Intrusion
· Taking Luna
City Atmosphere
· Fast-paced
· Closed-off
· Assertive, cranky, self-absorbed people
· Crowded (malls, grocery stores, trains)
· Horrible traffic
· Smog
· Messy
· Less physical activity…more lazy
· More fast-food
Nell
· Painful work
· Dependency
· Expensive ($600/month)
Career
· Difficult to find college counseling position
· Supervisor regulations
· Hours don’t fulfill LPC requirements
· Have to find appropriate supervisor
· Low salary to cost of living ratio
· Overworked
· Saturdays
· Community college (less respected experience)
· Cocky boss
Luna’s Life
· Quality of friendships
· Family values
· Discomfort/Worry/Safety
· No gifted education
· Parent disconnect from school
· Less involved in activities
Family
· Boundary crossing
· Perpetuate family perception/label
· Intrusion
· Taking Luna
City Atmosphere
· Fast-paced
· Closed-off
· Assertive, cranky, self-absorbed people
· Crowded (malls, grocery stores, trains)
· Horrible traffic
· Smog
· Messy
· Less physical activity…more lazy
· More fast-food
Nell
· Painful work
· Dependency
· Expensive ($600/month)
Career
· Difficult to find college counseling position
· Supervisor regulations
Need to find
apartment (approx. $1250)
Higher cost
of living
Bad random
weather
Far from
Nashville friends
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